When your expectations are too high

I feel like I’m pretty good at setting realistic expectations when it comes to my fitness level, but since having baby #2, I am really struggling. I’m officially 6 weeks postpartum and I thought my grand return to running and working out would be more… grand. 

know that I can’t expect to just strap on my running shoes and pick up where I left off, but in the back of my mind, I was hoping it wouldn’t be as hard as it has been. I pictured my hair blowing in the wind, a determined smile on my face, fast miles, shouting to people ,”I just had a baby and I’m already a rock star”.

As it turns out, it’s hard work. I’m not fast. My legs hurt. My thighs are on fire. I can’t catch my breath. My shorts keep riding up. I really wanted to just head back home. 

I know I’m not alone in this. I know there are a lot of us that set too high expectations or goals for ourselves and want to just quit when we aren’t to the level we think we should be.

Don’t quit.


It’s ok to change your expectations and your goals. I’m not sure when we all decided it was wrong to change goals, but it isn’t. You aren’t a failure because you realize you can’t run a marathon after training for 4 weeks. You were just a crazy person to think you could in the first place. Sometimes you have to start doing something so you can see where you are and where you want to go. 

I was thinking a possible half-marathon at the end of April, but now I realize that probably isn’t in the cards for me. 

Goal changed. Life didn’t end.

So next time you feel like you must be doing it all wrong because you don’t look like a Baywatch babe running down the sidewalk, or you aren’t as fast as the runner across the street from you, remember that you have to start somewhere and it isn’t an overnight process. 

Take it one step at a time. Literally.



  1. Just don’t be so hard on yourself. Remember you just gave birth to a beautiful girl.
    It will take time, but remember to enjoy the small victories.
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  2. Hi! I didn’t have time for a full workout this morning, so I did 10 minutes on the treadmill. That wasn’t my goal, but its what I had time for. Thank you for this post!! You are AWESOME!

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